Nowadays our life is changing at a quicker pace, much more than in the past. This also impacts the relationships that we have. What is happening nowadays is fantastic. Barely years back it was almost inconceivable to meet outsiders should you be staying in a distant region. People in this time are blessed to be so well linked with the rest of the world. If you are to open any facebook or other Web2.0 sites, most likely you will find somehow you are connected to others from diverse parts of the world. Individuals meet and fall in love using the web. Even if you were to meet offline, the pace is such that marriage crisis has become very common.
Sadly, this trend of filing for divorce is only going up. The fact is this figure does not even include couples who are living together. This phenomena is not only exclusive to the western world but it is happening in the entire world. We are so caught up with the “norms” of society. This refers to having gadgets in all aspects in our life like mobile phones, ipads etc. It is not that it is entirely bad, but this is encroaching on some parts of our lives. When were the last time that you have an uninterrupted conversation with your partner, not interrupted by emails, facebook and text messages etc?
One technique that you can employ to ensure that your relationship is well is to perform audit on it. This is similar to having health checks. Isn’t it funny that people make the effort to have their cars checked, their bodies checked, yet there is nothing being done to examine the state of their relationship? If you want to have a happy relationship, then you have to ensure that you do this step.
Techniques To Prevent Marriage Crisis
There is no need for complex stuff when you need to know the state of one’s relationship. You only have to perform 2 easy steps. These steps are easy to execute yet they are very effective. You merely need to do them every 3 months. If you are consistent, you will find your relationship will remain on the right track. The reason we choose 3 months is that it is not an excessively lengthy time. Because of that you just need to spend a short while for every session. 6 months look like too long a gap as there may be multiple changes. You could adjust this accordingly as you deem fit.
1. In this session, you have to be HONEST about how you feel about the relationship and about yourself. This is an open session which you are free to express yourself. Put in the things which are bad as well as those which are great and awesome. Sometimes sharing openly can be difficult to do. However, once you get a hang of it, it will become easier and easier. Always bear in mind that the purpose of this session is to solve problems and improve the relationship. You can do it in many ways and don’t have to stick to the normal discussion session. Be as creative as you want to. You can doodle or create a short video or podcast to share your feelings.
2. Next thing to do is to have your partner share their HONEST thoughts on the relationship and on themselves. Of course you can let them start the sharing session. Whatever it is, make sure that both parties have the opportunities to share. If you don’t do this, then there is high possibility that resentment will start to build up. Don’t fall into the trap of ignoring any party in the relationship.
Employ those basic steps and you will see that problems are fixed before they become big and often there’s no problem at all since most issues are looked after. The best thing about this method is that you nib the trouble at the bud.
Do it right and there shouldn’t be any big unexpected situations that occur. To get additional details, sign up for a FREE Newsletter on saving your relationship at the Save Your Relationship site.